Spend Good Friday With Jesus

Spend Good Friday with Jesus. He appreciates your company. You can spend the time doing these things:

Fast. Perhaps eat some soup for lunch.

Visit the Stations of Cross. This step-by-step remembrance of Jesus’ journey to death is found in most Catholic churches and in many others, too. If you can’t go visit one, you can watch one on YouTube.

Light a candle. Begin at noon.

Pray. Go before the Lord as you consider your own sins that He is carrying as He dies. Seek His forgiveness and His peace.

Read the story. “A Harmony of the Gospels” , available in a variety of translations and formats, aligns all four of Jesus’ eyewitness biographies to take you through the day … and through His life.

Meditate. Think about the sentences Jesus spoke from the cross.

  • Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.
  • Today you shall be with me in paradise.
  • Woman, behold your son! Behold, your mother!
  • My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?
  • I thirst.
  • It is finished.
  • Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.

Blow out the candle at 3 p.m.

Attend a Good Friday service at your church of choice.

Your presence with Jesus makes Him happy. Just imagine that.

Experience Awe This Lent

Let the whole world fear the Lord, and let everyone stand in awe of Him.

Psalm 33:8

Experiencing awe while in the presence of God is in decline as a Christian practice. Some Christians address God as a friend, a buddy or even a sweetheart. Casual prayers dominate small group meetings. “Oh hi, God. How’s it going?” More liturgical churches quote the words, but have lost the meaning. So why not deliberately experience awe this Lent.

I define awe as “reverential respect mixed with fear or wonder.” Awe is similar to “fear of the Lord.” Scripture commands us to experience God with awe. And, no surprise, awe also is important for human emotional health.

According to a 2018 white paper that the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley prepared for the John Templeton Foundation, experiencing awe is, yes, awesome. The experience often puts people in a self-transcendent state where they focus less on themselves and feel more like a part of a larger whole.

The study found that the individualistic culture of the United States impacts how Americans experience awe. Research by Dr. Michael Amster (co-author of “The Power of Awe“) found Americans less likely than most cultures to have those experiences at all. And, when they do, they are more likely to experience awe over personal accomplishments, the white paper reports.

People who are extraverted, open to new experiences, and/or wise more likely experience awe. It can also come over us during threat-based experiences, such as the September 11th attacks or the eureka moments like the Earthrise photo taken by an astronaut in 1968 showing Earth from the moon’s perspective for the first time. Other awe-inspiring things:

  • Moral acts of courage and bravery
  • Beauty in art, music and nature
  • Collective experiences that become euphoric
  • Observation of birth or death

And, of course, awe comes from religious experiences.

A Famous Awe Experience

I recently read “Man’s Search for Meaning” by psychiatrist and Auschwitz survivor Viktor Frankl. I was struck by his description of an awe experience that took place shortly after he was liberated from a concentration camp. So were the authors of the white paper, who included it in their work.

Frankl wrote: “One day, a few days after the liberation, I walked through the country past flowering meadows, for miles and miles, toward the market town near the camp. Larks rose to the sky and I could hear their joyous song. There was no one to be seen for miles around; there was nothing but the wide earth and sky and the larks’ jubilation and freedom of space. I stopped, looked around and up to the sky – then I went down on my knees. At that moment there was very little I knew of myself or of the world – I had but one sentence in mind – always the same: ‘I called to the Lord from my narrow prison and He answered me in the freedom of space.’

“How long I knelt there and repeated this sentence memory can no longer recall. But I know that on that day, in that hour, my new life started.” (pg. 89, Beacon Press edition)

Dacher Keltner, PhD, a psychology professor at UC Berkeley, developed more recent research, which he wrote about in a book “Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder.” As reported in the September 2023 issue of Real Simple magazine, he and his colleagues found that awe is very good for you. It results in:

  • Improved concentration
  • More rigorous thinking
  • Better community connection
  • Relief of depression and anxiety
  • Less inflammation in our bodies

Transformative awe produces lasting changes in people. More than 20 percent said the experience changed their connection with God, the white paper said. Awe also created a small-self effect, humility and a sense of connection with other people. Studies also show an inverse relationship between awe and materialism.

Ways To Increase Awe in Your Life

I’ve found that increasing the level of awe in my life helps to build my relationship with God. I learn more about the reality of God, which changes my own reality.

Keltner had suggestions for increasing the level of awe in our lives. I’m amending those ideas for Christians who already practice the presence of God using mindfulness and contemplation. For us, God is everywhere … from nature to music, from wisdom to morality. We can incorporate any of these ideas into our rules of life to bring in more opportunities for awe.

  • Volunteer your time to help others.
  • Listen to praise music as you get ready each morning.
  • Explore the psalms and other Scripture glorifying God through fixed hour prayer.
  • Enjoy walking meditation or forest bathing (Keltner calls it an awe walk).

Keitner’s team also prescribed “microdosing mindfulness.” As many of us practice mindfulness on a near-continual basis, this should be easy. We just do as we always do.

  • Pay complete attention to what you see or do.
  • Invite God into the situation.
  • Love the people in front of you.
  • Praise God for His awesomeness in the situation.

Because awe is in decline in many church experiences, we can create our own moments of awe. With our help, we may be able to spread this attitude of reverence back to our Christian community.

Together We Can Seek Christian Unity

This week in January is the traditional time to pray for Christian unity. Since Jesus did this at the Last Supper, you might even call it his dying wish.

Today, the Christian church is far from unified. Searching about this unity online brings up a lot of material about why unity is not a particularly good thing. As well as some divisive material on both sides of the political spectrum.

Weird, isn’t it? I myself have experienced hateful behavior from other Christians who view issues differently than I do. Surely this is not what Jesus wants for us, especially when everyone in the disagreement is sure that Jesus is on their side.

What Martin Luther King Can Teach Us

Recently, I attended a Vineyard USA workshop on principles and practices that Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. used as the core of the civil rights movement. This was a nonviolent movement, so much so that Dr. King told people who couldn’t promise to remain nonviolent to stay away. His “10 Commandments” of nonviolence offered me inspiration for dealing with the divisive nature of today’s Christianity:

  1. Meditate daily on the teachings and life of Jesus.
  2. Remember always that the non-violent movement seeks justice and reconciliation – not victory.
  3. Walk and talk in the manner of love, for God is love.
  4. Pray daily to be used by God in order that all men might be free.
  5. Sacrifice personal wishes in order that all men might be free.
  6. Observe with both friend and foe the ordinary rules of courtesy.
  7. Seek to perform regular service for others and for the world.
  8. Refrain from the violence of fist, tongue, or heart.
  9. Strive to be in good spiritual and bodily health.
  10. Follow the directions of the movement and of the captain on a demonstration.

If we follow these rules (which King insisted that even nonChristians in the movement do), we will find it much easier to approach each other as Christians.

I began my faith walk as a Lutheran before I converted to Catholicism, in part because it was the only church in my deep, DEEP South town that was integrated. Years later, unable to support the idea of a male celibate priesthood any more, I moved back across the line to the Protestant non-denominational church. So I’ve heard a lot about what both side of the Protestant-Catholic lanes think about each other.

Some things are purely untrue or misunderstood. Others are differences in style. Some are doctrinal disagreements. But Jesus surely asked all of us in the 21st century to strive for unity during the Last Supper. And I have found devoted Christians to admire in both camps.

While placing country over Christ is a form of idolatry that strains some American churches today, we all should be able to say “Amen” to Jesus’ prayer.

Pray for Christian Unity

This prayer for unity is one I’ve adaptedfrom “Catholic Household Blessings and Prayers.”

Oh Lord, help me to speak and behave in Christian love with all who claim you as Savior.
Give me the grace to have courtesy and refrain from violence of tongue, heart, fist and online behavior.
We pray to you for your holy Christian church in my own neighborhood and around the world.
Help us to accomplish reconciliation.
Fill the church with your presence and your truth.
Keep it in your peace.
Where it is corrupt, reform it.
Where it is in error, correct it.
Where it is right, defend it.
Where it is in want, provide for it.
Where it is divided, reunite it.
For the sake of your Son, our Savior Jesus Christ.


			
thankful grateful blessed in script

This Thanksgiving List Your Blessings

Parts of the world are at war. We may be missing loved ones. And the cost of Thanksgiving may be much higher than last year. Nonetheless, the Lord has been so good to us.

Today, let’s look with intention at what’s right and how God has blessed us. Listing our blessings helps us to stay focused on what is good in our lives.

For example, I am thankful to the Lord for:

  • Our continued health.
  • Our marriage that has remained solid despite both of us in pain from shoulder and back conditions.
  • Food, water and a warm house.
  • My granddaughter and the miracles of technology that allow us to spend time together.
  • My wonderful kids.
  • A more consistent Christian mindfulness practice.
  • My spiritual director and pastors.

And there’s lots more on my list. Please make one yourself and spend time thanking God for what you have. You will feel much better.

It might be fun to keep it, so you can compare it to next year’s list.

You also can create a list of unanswered prayers to compare. Last year I prayed for travel. And yes, this year I went to Europe twice!

You also can make a gratitude pumpkin for your table! Just list your blessings on a pumpkin. It’s fun.

cross and crown of thorns

Fridays in Lent

Adding the Stations of the Cross to your Lent routine allows God to vividly display what Jesus endured for us. During Lent, I add this to my lunchtime routine on Fridays. The prayer “Look Down Upon Me, Good and Gentle Jesus” is another good addition.

The Stations of the Cross developed out of a desire for Christians to walk “The Via Dolorosa” in Jerusalem, the route from Pontius Pilate’s praetorium to the cross. It’s popular in Western Christian traditions, including Catholic, Anglican, Lutheran and Methodist.

In churches, 14 pictures or plaques are on the walls or on an outdoor walk that allow Christ followers to go from station to station. We stop at each station to pray and reflect.

This free PDF from the Diocese of Manchester takes you through the stations so you can do them at your desk or your kitchen table. The Archdiocese of Portland offers this PDF of the stations, with some preliminary prayers.

Stations of the Cross are available on YouTube. I particularly like this one, which is less than 15 minutes long.

When you only have a few seconds to yourself on Friday at noon, you can pray this:

Look down upon me, good and gentle Jesus, while before Your face I humbly kneel and with burning soul, pray and beseech You to fix deep in my heart lively sentiments of faith, hope and charity, true contrition for my sins and a firm purpose of amendment, while I contemplate with great love and tender pity your five most precious wounds, pondering over them within me and calling to mind the words that David, your prophet, said of you , my Jesus, “They have pierced My hands and feet, They have numbered all my bones.”

Celebrate Ash Wednesday at Home

If you can’t attend church today, here’s an Ash Wednesday service you can do at home.

Write down a list of your sins. Burn the paper in a bowl or ashtray. Then pray:

Let us ask our Heavenly Father to bless these ashes, which we will use as a mark of our repentance. Lord, bless these ashes. Wearing them reminds us that we are from the dust of the earth. Pardon our sins and keep us faithful to the resolutions that we have made for Lent. Help us to prepare well for the celebration of your Son's glorious resurrection.  Through Christ our Lord, Amen.

Mark each person’s forehead in the sign of the cross saying, “Turn away from sin and be faithful to the gospel.”

Close with this prayer:

Loving Father, today we start Lent. From today, we make a new start to be more loving and kind. Help us to show more concern for the less fortunate, the hungry and the poor. Help us to love you more and speak to you more often. Through Christ our Lord, Amen. 

How Do You Want to Spend Lent?

Ash Wednesday is this week, so today is a good time to prepare our Lenten resolutions. I’ve used Lent to give up bad habits, but more often I take this time to create positive habits.

Think about how we can improve our prayer life, fasting and giving. Some families pick a charity and put their change into a bowl each day. Others give up eating out and give away the money they saved. My church took a recent pledge to not have cell phones at the dinner table. We can find many things to improve if we think and pray about it.

I also always have a Lenten reading program. In the past, I read a biography of a Christian I admired, a devotional and a general book about faith each Lent. Today it’s a lot more random. I just look at the bookshelves to see what I think would be helpful and inspiring.

Take some time today to figure out how you want to spend Lent. Your resolutions can be positive and prayerful. May you have a blessed Lent.

emotionally healthy woman

Resource: Everything Belongs

Fr. Richard Rohr’s outstanding book “Everything Belongs: The Gift of Contemplative Prayer” is for people who “hunger for a deeper spiritual life but don’t know what contemplation is.”

He does an excellent job explaining it, and, even more, he helps us to understand a form of prayerful living that’s not based on speech. I’ve seen the book called “meandering” in my reviews. I think it follows the forms and shapes of real life.

Repeatedly Rohr challenges us to move beyond our comfort zone to a deeper rest in God. There, he says, we can find the freedom to become all we can be. Only when we “live and see through God can everything belong.”

What does that mean? Rohr writes, “Everything belongs; God uses everything. There are no dead-ends. There is no wasted energy. Everything is recycled. … I believe with all my heart that the Gospel is all about the mystery of forgiveness.”

Contemplative prayer can help us to see that God loves us as we are. And then we can better see who we are.

But it’s not easy. Rohr notes, “Our first response to anyone calling us to truth, greatness, goodness or morality at a higher level will be increased anxiety.”

Later on, he writes, “That’s what happens in the early stages of contemplation. We wait in silence. In silence all our usual patterns assault us. Our patterns of control, addiction, negativity, tension, anger, and fear assert themselves. That’s why most people give up rather quickly. When Jesus is led by the Spirit into the wilderness, the first things that show up are wild beasts (Mark 1:13). Contemplation is not first of all consoling. It’s only real.”

Yet, once you open yourself to this journey, you discover more peace. “Know that things are okay as they are. This moment is as perfect as it can be. The saints called this the ‘sacrament of the present moment,’ ” he writes.

The book has been revised and updated with a reading guide. It received 4.25 stars out of 4,556 ratings on Goodreads and 4.2 stars out of 4,541 ratings on Amazon. It is a book to read and re-read. Enjoy the journey.

Fr. Rohr is on a journey himself as he has stepped back from public ministry after a cancer diagnosis last year. May God bless his life and work.

Cross formed by large group of Christians

How You Can Advance Christian Unity

This time of January is the traditional time to pray for Christian unity. Jesus did this at the Last Supper. You might even call it one of his dying wishes.

Today, the Christian church is far from unified. Searching about this unity online brings up a lot of material about why unity is not a particularly good thing. As well as some divisive material on both sides of the political spectrum.

Weird, isn’t it? I myself have experienced hateful behavior from other Christians who view issues differently than I do. Surely this is not what Jesus wants for us, especially when everyone in the disagreement is sure that Jesus is on their side.

What Martin Luther King Can Teach Us

Recently, I attended a Vineyard USA workshop on principles and practices that Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. used as the core of the civil rights movement. This was a nonviolent movement, so much so that Dr. King told people who couldn’t promise to remain nonviolent to stay away. His “10 Commandments” of nonviolence offered me inspiration for dealing with the divisive nature of today’s Christianity:

  1. Meditate daily on the teachings and life of Jesus.
  2. Remember always that the non-violent movement seeks justice and reconciliation – not victory.
  3. Walk and talk in the manner of love, for God is love.
  4. Pray daily to be used by God in order that all men might be free.
  5. Sacrifice personal wishes in order that all men might be free.
  6. Observe with both friend and foe the ordinary rules of courtesy.
  7. Seek to perform regular service for others and for the world.
  8. Refrain from the violence of fist, tongue, or heart.
  9. Strive to be in good spiritual and bodily health.
  10. Follow the directions of the movement and of the captain on a demonstration.

If we follow these rules (which King insisted that even nonChristians in the movement do), we will find it much easier to approach each other as Christians.

Pray for Christian Unity

Then we can truly pray for Christian unity. I’ve adapted this prayer from “Catholic Household Blessings and Prayers.”

Oh Lord, help me to speak and behave in Christian love with all who claim you as Savior.
Give me the grace to have courtesy and refrain from violence of tongue, heart, fist and online behavior. 
We pray to you for your holy Christian church in my own neighborhood and around the world.
Help us to accomplish reconciliation. 
Fill the church with your presences and your truth.
Keep it in your peace.
Where it is corrupt, reform it.
Where it is in error, correct it.
Where it is right, defend it.
Where it is in want, provide for it.
Where it is divided, reunite it.
For the sake of your Son, our Savior Jesus Christ. 


			
suffering child in bombed out area

The Suffering of the Innocent

The feast of the Holy Innocents falls just three days after Christmas. And that’s no accident.

Jesus came into the fallen world as an infant to start the process of ending suffering. But the world was filled with evil then, and it’s filled with evil now. This day we can meditate on the suffering of the innocent in our own time. Think of Ukraine. Afghanistan. The unborn and the born who are hungry and cold in wealthy nations.

Today we think about how we can be the hands and feet of Jesus to suffering children.

This prayer, from the Catholic Household Blessing and Prayers, is a good one to contemplate:

Heavenly Father,
your holiness revealed in Jesus
challenges us to renounce violence,
to forsake revenge,
and to love without discrimination, without measure.

Teach us the surpassing truth of the Gospel,
which puts worldly wisdom to shame,
that we may recognize as one with us
even our enemies and persecutors
and see all people as your children.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.
Amen